Sheilah Y. Kimble President/ Chief Executive Officer (CEO)/Founder & Certified Victim’s Advocate at The Arthur Lee Duncantell II Foundation (aka) The Duncantell Foundation, Inc.
The inception of The Arthur Lee Duncantell II Foundation, a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, was inspired based on a true story concerning my life. As a victim of domestic violence, I felt it important to assist those who were going through some of the same circumstances as I had gone through. However, when my eldest son passed away as a result of being a victim of both gun and domestic violence, I knew that I had to do more.
Because my son wanted to assist wayward youth, I began this organization in honor of what his dreams and aspirations were, until I had male victims of domestic violence to share their stories with me. I then realized that as a survivor who was self-sufficient but having a child that was not so fortunate, I had to redirect my focus and incorporate more than just women and children. I began in my writings with my seventh book “Real Men Who Suffer Too: A Guide That Brings About Awareness Of Male Victims And Domestic Violence.”
One of our goals is aimed towards preventing domestic violence within the community by providing education not just for the victims but for the perpetrators as well. The reason for educating the perpetrators is to shift social norms as there are those perpetrators who may have been victims themselves. By shifting social norms that negatively impact our culture, we must also understand that domestic violence is a learned behavior that can be unlearned. For male victims of domestic violence, they are those who have secretly put up with abuse from their significant other, whether verbally, emotionally, mentally or physically. Males who are victims of domestic violence are silent and overlooked victims. Unfortunately, it oftentimes takes something serious if not detrimental to occur before the public or the justice system recognizes that domestic violence against men exists and that we must shift the social norms and take these men seriously. While on the other hand, it may take their death before it is realized by mainstream society that they were actually a victim of domestic abuse. Traditionally, males are the perpetrators of domestic violence, and in order to shift the social norms that have negatively impacted our culture and begin promoting a more healthy and respectful environment, we must begin to heal through awareness and education. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, “thirty-five percent of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence, according to the United Nations. On average, there are nearly 20 people per minute who are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. In a course of one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc.”